Sub-drop is a painful experience. I remember the very accurate moment last week when I experienced the feel of a BDSM sub drop. Previously, I had read a bit regarding what BDSM sub are. The feeling of a BDSM drop has always been something I knew or heard happening to people. Years have passed since I have been active and so have never experienced a sub drop. I had vaguely reconciled with the notion I would never be faced with the BDSM drop.
That notion changed last week, I was amidst an intense active session so much that I could tell you minutely. Everything about how playful the session was. Once we reached the end, a sudden feeling of tiredness came over me. This is usual, after every intense session it doesn’t even have to be BDSM, we all do feel fatigued. Tiredness though was not only my main concern after a few minutes I began experiencing extreme feelings of hollowness and guilt. It was as if I was being encircled and taken away by the whole rush of a feeling of melancholy. I understood I was experiencing a sub drop.
Understanding of Subspace
What is a sub drop, knowing about it and feeling and reacting instantly on your feet during the moment are very different things. All my years of experience with partners and situations went out of the window. I could see my partner panic not knowing what to do. Today, after about a week since my feelings of the desolation of sub drop had taken over me. I have decided to grab a coffee and write down everything to know about what is sub-drop, the zones of the BDSM drop, and most importantly. What should be done?
Understanding sub-drop directly correlates with understanding sub-space. Subspace is the mental zone that we enter during sessions of BDSM. We are all familiar with the constant feeling of extreme ecstasy with the sensation of being under the influence of chemicals. BDSM has a lot to do with the brain like everything else in life, of course. The subspace that varies greatly among different individuals procreates constant adrenaline and endorphin rushes propelling us to push through the pain barrier. Even at times in a bid for otherworldly pleasure.
What is Sub Drop
BDSM sub-drops come at us in a very, at times, haunting manner right after this. The sessions along with it the constant rush and flow of the inner body chemicals result in an imbalance. Imbalance when heightened is what we refer to as the sub drop. Important to remember the sub drop is not simply related to the submissive, the dominants are prone to it equally as well. The lasting period of a subdrop usually lasts from a few hours to days. There is the feeling of depression or isolation or guilt or even a bucket load of embarrassment.
Now, with an understanding of what is sub-drop, the primary task becomes the treatment of the BDSM drop once it plunges us. BDSM drop can happen once or a few times or in a period constantly and then go away for a good long time. The ways to manage the BDSM sub-drop are all within our hands though.
Sub Drop Goes Away but You Need to Follow Care
Aftercare, as you might as well take care of anyway after every session of play, becomes extremely necessary. Communication is a must, understand and talk to your partner if you realize they are experiencing a sub drop or even if you are. Some like to be left alone and that is completely alright. Address what you’re feeling, cuddle up if that’s what works for you, have a good cry, and maybe order your favorite food. A good TV show or a good film works the trick just as well. The key is not to panic every time you’re experiencing a sub drop. Remember what is happening is completely normal. Subdrop will eventually be experienced by every one of us actively partaking in BDSM.
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The other issue needed to be taken care of, in case there is blood, use the first aid kit and wash the wound and bandage the area. It is important to remember not to leave the wounded area open. If you think of attending to the wound later, there will be chances of not only infection but also a case worsening of the BDSM drop. The sight of the blood will inevitably trigger more feelings of anxiety furthering the BDSM subdrop.
Just Don’t Panic, Alright?
Other things probably are obvious. In case of a panic attack, the other partner does all things necessary relying on communication and understanding of your partner. Don’t just leave your partner if they are experiencing a sub drop. There is nothing to freak out about.
Now, you probably know a tad more about what a BDSM subdrop is. A sub drop is normal just a byproduct and just all in all a monster, we all have to deal with.
