It is ironic how Sex, itself, in our society is such a hush-hush conversation even when it is the entire basis of human existence. We don’t understand what it would take away from them to admit that everyone is having sex, has preferences and likes, and is also something beyond the idea of procreation, which is a pleasure.
Now, as soon as the pleasure aspect comes along with Sex, the shameful stakes go even higher. But let’s face it, people are into pleasuredome sexual activities, they have their own interests, kinks, and fetishes. While some are into kinky bondage others may find spanking stimulating. It is true that people in the US are more into playing with Spanking Paddles during BDSM than with a tennis racket.
Maintaining the well-respected boundaries of Safe, Sane, and Consensual, there are BDSM communities that operate on the low in most towns and cities. So, why the taboo? Here we shall be discussing with facts, figures and reasons how common it is to actually be into kinky bondage sex and BDSM even when you have thought of it more than you think.
What do the Numbers Suggest about Kinky Bondage Popularity?
If you think Kinky Bondage is not a famous public ground to play, we have statistics and figures from a few studies over the years. Trust us, you are in for a surprise. According to a 2017 Study in the Journal of Sexual Medicine, almost 50% of the total demographic has tried any form of BDSM in their lives which may include Kinky bondage play, Dominance & Sadism/Masochism.
Yet another study conducted by Justin Lehmiller for his book ‘Tell Me What You Want brought out dramatic figures about the sexual fantasies of people. His survey suggested that BDSM is unsurprisingly the most fantasized about kink, so much so that nearly 93% of men & 96% of women have thought of indulging in it. If you’re still not convinced, a survey carried out by Durex concluded that 36% of Americans use kinky bondage and blindfold gear while having sex.
These numbers hold a mirror to the country that, in the confines of their bedroom, is all for sexual experimentation yet there is dead silence in publicly admitting it.
Common BDSM Fantasies
Now that we know even the objective figures have brought out the kinky bondage and sexual fantasies of the Americans. We observe what specific kinks and fetishes top this list.
The most common activities on the BDSM spectrum are Kinky bondage sex with ties and handcuffs, spanking, biting, and using whips. Another high ranker is extreme kinky sex, more among women than men. These are also well paired with fetishes like sexual pleasure from non-sexual objects or body parts like feet, armpits, etc. They like to tie each other up in a kinky bondage situation. They then act upon the fetishes to intensify stimulation. Apart from that, a lot of men also fantasize about voyeurism and exhibitionism.
Why the Buzz around Kinky Bondage BDSM?
Getting into the rationale behind people being so fascinated by the idea of kinky bondage and BDSM in general, we are enlisting a few major reasons. Take a look:
Control Play
This comes as an obvious reason why people are so into Kinky bondage stuff. The hectic and competitive lifestyle of people in the country keeps almost everyone on their toes for a whole week.
They can’t make so many decisions for themselves and for others. So, it obviously takes a toll on them. Thus, whenever they get the time, they like to engage in almost mindless sex with minimum decisions to make. This is also one reason why a lot of people like the Submissive role in a BDSM relationship. The quest for trustworthy mental peace at hands of their dominant partner is what they seek.
Appeal of Taboo & Humiliation
According to ‘Forbidden Fruit tastes sweeter’, it is a human tendency to find a stimulating kick out of doing things that they aren’t supposed to. In this case, there is so much taboo around sex and BDSM in general. The mere act of tying someone up, engaging in kinky bondage, and deriving pleasure out of it, makes Americans shiver. This aspect of the Taboo attached to BDSM and sex makes it even more desirable.
Apart from that, the power dynamic essentially requires the Sub to offer themselves to the Dom reflects humiliation. This mix of feelings and sensations that represent the forbidden culture in the US comes out in the Sexual pursuits of people. They engage in everything taboo from spanking, and biting to kinky bondage and using whips.
Openness for Sexual Experimentation
Another big reason why Americans have a marginal difference from the rest of the world in being kinky is that there is more openness to novelty and experimentation. People crave and chase the intense high from general experiences in life. It makes them more drawn towards BDSM in their quest for the same. Be it spanking or bondage kinky, these aspects add a tinge of unpredictability and thrill in life. Now, this can come from either the taboo aspect which makes it more new and different from mainstream vanilla. Or because of the monotony in daily life that motivates them to experiment with kinky bondage.
Conclusion
Finally, we can say that Kinks and BDSM are far more common than all of us thought. We are all thinking about it during some or other part of our day. We feel that we are the only ones. Reading this article, you may feel relieved as to how common this is and that there are lowkey BDSM communities running in your own city or town. This should encourage us to open a discourse about sexual fantasies and fetishes in society so that everyone is able to experience everything within the boundaries of Safe, Sane, and Consensual.