Imagine a blonde woman in black and white lingerie with a fancy whip in her hand goes down on her knees and starts licking, biting, and sucking your most prized possession, while you’re doing nothing but just feeling the sensation because you’re handcuffed and tied somewhere in your room! The blonde woman has silky hair cascading over her brown nipple, and she is going deeper and deeper down in her throat, how’s the feeling? 

In case this view has made your sex buds pink for getting into blonde panties under the sheets then you can also experience this with your sexy blonde woman—this is the power of BDSM play. 

If you’ve ever fantasized about trying BDSM play with sexy blondes in panties then there are some set of rules that you need to follow during BDSM play to make the session safe, healthy, and pleasurable with your partner. And if BDSM is something that you want to experience for the first time, and have no prior experience with it then this blog post is for you. We have assembled some relevant insights that you probably have not learned from the novel Fifty Shades of Grey. 

What is BDSM play?

BDSM is a category that includes a spectrum of sexual activities, from bondage to spanking to impact play and role-playing. BDSM is a vast ocean and a perfect community for anyone who takes kinks seriously and wants to experience sex with people having some unique and interesting sex fetishes.

Although there’s a common myth that some people think that BDSM is all about sex penetration in variations, that’s not true. In some cases BDSM doesn’t have to involve sex, it’s optional. BDSM is more about sensations, and it can make you go wet or cum instantly if done correctly.  

How Many People Practice BDSM? 

BDSM is often considered a sinful sexual act in the bible of traditional sex culture that still believes in momentous and routine sex patterns. People often considered sex as a sacred way to experience the intensity of love, and emotions with your partner. And doing it with cuffs, ropes, and role-playing is considered dirtiness with sex that is not acceptable by society.

According to a survey by a group of Canadian researchers, it’s been found that more than 47{bfab4d58a0f8f81b3bf99113d7feed73f9a1649aad46d7962182acbb90fa628c} of women and 60{bfab4d58a0f8f81b3bf99113d7feed73f9a1649aad46d7962182acbb90fa628c} of men have fantasies about BDSM. People fantasized about getting dominant blonde woman or dominating someone sexually in bed. While fewer men are sexually aroused by the idea of being dominated according to The Journal of Sex Research.

The same study also claimed that more than 47{bfab4d58a0f8f81b3bf99113d7feed73f9a1649aad46d7962182acbb90fa628c} of young adults want to try at least one BDSM sex play activity and 33.9 percent said that they have tried at least one BDSM play in the past. BDSM is as common as beer and booze in America. Although it’s still a taboo, every 1 in 3 people is a part of the BDSM community and BDSM dating app, so let’s normalise it! 

But, Why BDSM Is Still Not A Part Of Sex Education? 

Unfortunately, our sex education is looping around in an old and outdated sex education syllabus and needs a serious overhaul. Our sex education is limited to telling kids about reproductive systems, and how to make babies. Understanding sex education about BDSM or not talking about means we are somewhere unintentionally contributing to rape culture.

Yes, you’ve read that right. If we as a parent or teachers steer clear of our way to talk about BDSM and normalize it, then Google will be the best friend for your children. And sex education from the internet, you know where it will take your child. It’s not that the internet creates adult and pornography content only. But it’s the easiest way to navigate dark and horrible pornographic content. On these sites, BDSM play is wrongly projected. 

BDSM on adult and porn sites is all about forceful sex. There you see lack of consent, pain, and objectifying women as sex objects that men use in any way. But the reality is poles apart, BDSM in real life is all about making love, exchange of power, and consent. 

The Power of Dominance and Submission 

In BDSM, power exchange is central to the dynamic between partners. One person takes on the role of dominant, while the other submits to their authority. This can be an incredibly erotic and exciting experience for both parties involved. The dominant partner gets to exert their control and explore their dominance. And the submissive partner gets to let go of control and surrender to their desires. It can be a cathartic experience for those who struggle with letting go in other areas of their lives.  

Safewords in BDSM play 

Safewords are short and easy ways to practice consent with a submissive partner. It helps partners to practice BDSM play safely and in a healthy way. If you are keen to experience naked blonde women melted to sofa, however, the one important thing you need to be taken care of before getting into the act is safety and consent. Without safewords, either party can get hurt—either physically or emotionally. So before jumping into any kinky play, talk about what safewords you will use and that everyone understands them.  

And finally, remember that being a good dominant isn’t just about exerting your control. It’s also about taking care of your partner every time. You should make sure they’re enjoying themselves as well (or at least not being hurt). With these guidelines in mind, go forth and dominate your sexy blondes in panties! 

Also Read: How to Care for Bruises and More BDSM Play Recovery Tips

Conclusion

BDSM play can be an incredibly erotic and exciting experience for all parties involved. But only if it’s done safely and consensually. So if you are interested in exploring this side of your sexuality, make sure you do some research ahead of time and talk with your partner about what activities you are both comfortable with.