BDSM is a sex taboo that breaches the common traditional sex culture which is vaginal and penis sex. Beyond the traditional vagina-penis sex, everything is considered unnatural and dirty. But it’s far more common than you think, and almost everyone today is a member of the BDSM secret society. From random role-play sex to a sex staple, BDSM is the new sex culture that people loves to enjoy behind the walls with one or more partner.
Why is BDSM Hyped?
Today’s generation has content-juicy internet that is flooded with intense sex exploration videos provoking them to experiment with sex in different ways in bed. It’s time to normalize it, BDSM is normal and healthy for couples. Don’t believe me? Here’s the fact:
A group of researchers in Canada surveyed how often couples practice BDSM or other kinky sex. Results were unexpected and shocking—more than 50% of the individuals they surveyed said they like performing BDSM at times while making out. If you’re still caging your sexual desires, read this one:
More than 47 percent of women and around 60% of men agreed that they had fantasized about getting dominated by their partners sexually. So if you’re still on the fence about whether you should unlock your kinky fantasy about experimenting with BDSM with your partner then this blog is for you.
Doesn’t matter if you’re a newbie or a veteran in doing BDSM with your partner, there’s always room to learn something new when it comes to sex. Every new learning about bondage basic or BDSM training will heighten the sensation and give the best orgasm of your life.
So keep the tissues ready because we are going to penetrate deep into this topic today.
First Things First, What Is BDSM?
BDSM is not one but involves a spectrum of sexual acts done by couples. The term BDSM means (Bondage Dominance Submission And Masochism). There’s a common myth that BDSM included sexual penetration, but that is necessarily not important. BDSM is a game of physical sensations and sex is optional.
Is BDSM A Taboo Practice?
BDSM is often considered taboo and unacceptable in some countries like India. People consider sex a sacred way to access the higher intensity of love, healing, and oneness. While BDSM is something off-limits from traditional sex and people mostly don’t want to talk about it. This is exactly what makes BDSM more raw, interesting, and exciting. Humans are curious souls and love to explore the unexplored, and when it comes to a kink and pleasure we all take it very seriously. Doing something more sexy and exciting than ending up on penetration will not harm you. BDSM is healthy for a relationship but at the same time, it’s important to follow crucial bondage safety tips.
How BDSM Sex Improves Sexual Relationships
Safe bondage or BDSM sex can be enjoyable and something very unique if you’re trying it for the first time. Many couples who have tried BDSM see it as a way of exploring pleasures in a new way, a playground to experiment with their secret fantasies of dominance, submission, control, and vulnerability. Studies have shown that BDSM is proven effective in reducing stress and improving relationships with partners. BDSM can give higher realms of sensations if practiced with kinky soft toys, such as handcuffs, lubricants, door sex with seats, and blindfolds.
Porn and BDSM
The porn industry has changed the real definition of BDSM and Bondage safety, and it’s portrayed negatively on the internet. BDSM in porn is all about forceful sex, dominance, disrespect, and fictional pleasure and evokes risky sexual behaviors in viewers. But BDSM in real life is a healthy sexual act that is all about building a healthy and strong relationship with your partner, building trust, and doing everything with consent in every stage of the play. But pornography BDSM is more of objectifying women as sex toys which is a serious crime.
Important Bondage Safety Rules
Now that you have decided to jump out of the fence of your monotonous traditional sex, here we a few BDSM safe basic tips that you need to take care of:
Bondage is all about trust
Trust is the key element for a healthy and safe bondage session. Never perform bondage with strangers you don’t know or if you’re having bad vibes. When someone asks you to go into bondage, it means that you will be in no control, and putting your life in their hands. Once you’re tied, they can do anything.
Communication
- Always communicate with your partner and let them know about your comfort zone and health issues if any. If you’re not enjoying it, tell them to stop.
- Set safewords such as Stop! (red signal), Slow down ( Yellow signal), and Green ( go for it).
- Bondage should not be one-way, always discuss with the partner what type of bondage he/she is interested in. Share your kinky secrets with your partner, like- you feel more orgasms when tied up from the walls or bed.
More Bondage Safety Rules
There are some basic bondage safety tips that everyone should be aware of:
- Never leave a tied-up person alone for any reason
- Always try to untie yourself from the bondage quickly
- Always keep a water bottle and scissors ready
- Always keep the first aid kit handy
- Avoid bondage if you have anxiety problems or joint injuries
Three BDSM Acts That Will Set Her On Fire!
Hair Pulling
Hair pulling is one common and important chapter in the BDSM training manual that you should try if it’s your first time. You can try hair pulling when she’s in a reverse cowgirl position. The pain matrix has some logical psychological and physiological explanations. One theory is that when you scratch, bite, or pull the hair of your girl while stroking, the heartbeat races which is a reaction to that pain. This is known as sexual excitement. And DO NOT interpret porn; just grab her hair from the scalp gently, and always do it if she agrees to it.
Biting
Biting is an art, and you should go slow if it’s your first time. You don’t have to bite her strongly or you’ll end up tearing her skin apart. Bite slowly as if you are giving a teeth massage. Start biting in the area around her genitals, and watch her going wet.
Spanking
Spank her near the lower part of her hips closest to her vagina. Spanking near the vagina sends vibrations through her clit which will hit her like a shockwave of sweet sensations. Would you believe that ancient(warping) texts have briefly discussed spanking? Isn’t that amazing? It’s been written that the act of hitting hips with an open palm (Spanking) awakens her erogenous zone and excitement, in simpler terms, you are vibing her G Spot!
Closing Thoughts
BDSM is a cocktail of various unique pleasures and sensations that you can experience during sexual encounters. Now you’re all set to heat things in your bedroom. How’s your Bootcamp on bondage basic? Let us know in the comment section, and don’t forget to keep lube and condoms handy if you’re moving ahead in the play.
