People might judge me, but my first spanking fantasies sparked when I was around 13. I have always dreamed of being naked in bed with my husband on our luxurious honeymoon. And suddenly, he would kiss me, turn me over his knee, and then start spanking me with an open palm. I have always wanted to feel how it feels. I didn’t know what people do behind the wall on their honeymoon.
All I wanted was a tight slap on my ass, feels sexy right? But how does spanking set you in your sex tone? Why do people like being spanked? Is it about the sweet pleasure after pain? If we dial back to your childhood, spanking is something that your grandma or mom did to you to punish you—aka when you break something expensive while running around the house or using the wrong words in school.
But as you hit puberty when your hormones started fizzing out for sex, spanking feels like a reward. Spanking is a form of impact play when one partner hits another partner’s butt or thighs using their hands or tool. The impact elicits a sensation of sweet pain which turns you on.
If you want to experience the sweet erotic pain of spanking or want to surprise your partner with some sudden spanks. Then this blog post is for you, here’s the erotic spanking guide that will do the job for you.
Are you a Spankee or Spanker?
Spanking gives pleasure both ways, that is a person who is smacking the ass and a partner who is getting smacked on the ass, thighs, breast, or other fleshy parts of the body. Spanking someone at the grocery store for cutting the line? “A suicidal move it is!”. But spanking someone naked with dirty talking will summon your lusty cupids.
How Do you Define Erotic Spanking?
Spanking is popular foreplay, but still a topic of mystery for many people who are just getting started with an “under the blanket” experiment with their partners. It’s time to shed some light on erotic spanking, so you can give or enjoy the best spanking of your life.
Spanking is often portrayed as taboo or a painful act during sex, but according to people spanking is a common role-play thing that people perform during role play. The bottom line is no one is getting punished; erotic spanking is a two-way pleasure for the one who is enjoying spanking, and the person who is spanking the butt.
How Can I Tell My Partner to Spank Me?
Women are great at giving visual hints, you can use visuals to cross paths and let your partner know about your kinky fantasy. If he is not around you can send him a kinky GIF or a video; for example, a video of someone getting spanked, with the message I like this. Visual messages are a clear way to let your partner understand what you exactly want and where you want. Spanking is often considered abuse, so sending animated spanking GIFs or videos can make your partner comfortable and make the impact play pleasurable.
So Who Enjoys Spanking The Most?
Well, there’s a common myth that men are likely to take charge during impact play and always fill the dominant role. But this is not the case, some men also like being spanked. Not everyone is gay, we need to normalize this social stigma that prevents men from coming out of the closet. Who knows your men like being spanked but are scared to talk about it? A lot of guys like being dominated, and like when a girl does their favorite things without being instructed.
Best Erotic Spanking Tips For Beginners
Spanking feels great, the sensations of pleasure and pain elicited after the hit is intriguing. Imagine your body in a c-shape and your husband/boyfriend is making your legs wide. Suddenly he went to bend to explore your area 69, and with some unpredictable spank on your ass, you’re on right? But it is just not about hitting and dirty talking, there’s a lot to learn to make it healthy and pleasurable.
Here we have assembled a few spanking tips that you can practice during foreplay:
Talk about Boundaries
Sudden airstrikes on your partner’s butts can be weird and uncomfortable for your partner. You cannot just go and spank someone, you should discuss boundaries with your partner to know if this is something they’re interested in or not. Have a clear conversation, for example, how they’d like to be spanked or maybe how they want to give a spanking session.
Here are a few ways you can do it:
- Hey, I was thinking that we should try spanking during sex. So, what are your thoughts?
- Hey, today I watched the movie fifty shades of grey which made me curious about spanking. I like this, can you spank me tonight?
- Can we try spanking before anal? It feels great, what do you think?
Speak up during Sex
Talking dirty during sex will intensify your pleasure, and being vocal will add a fire element during sex. Also, clear communication can prevent you from getting hurt, but most people avoid it because it can be a mood killer for your partner. Here’s how you can do it: Babe, I am loving it the way you are hitting me, but you’re going a bit too hard. Can you slow down a bit? Or you can even use safe words if you feel uncomfortable. But if you’re loving it, you can go like, “Yeah, that’s so hot!”
Always be Cautious
Spanking is a hot role-play act, but it’s important to take care of the sensitive parts. It can be dangerous if you hit above the buttocks. Your injuries are prone to get injured, even a hard hit can also do damage.
Don’t be afraid of using Tools
Spanking is not only about using hands, you can use tools to make the pleasure more pleasurable, such as some toys for impact play will do the trick. Beginners can also use leather gloves for some sensual experience on the bottom. You should add it to your BDSM session if you’re getting started.
So what is the key Lesson of the BDSM Spanking Guide?
The key element of the erotic guide is consent. You should check in with your partner while it’s happening. Maybe your partner has signed up for trying spanking, but later it doesn’t work out for him/her. Most people bear it out and don’t complain, so it’s important to move forward with consent from your partner. Consent is paramount during sex.
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After you are done with your things, you should check in with your partner again. Maybe they want to do some cuddling and hugs, maybe they feel hungry, and want to go out to eat. Maybe they want to grab some beer and fries to end the day on a perfect day, or maybe they want to try something more kinky and sexy. It’s open to having a follow-up conversation with your mate to keep it healthy and enjoyable. We hope that you have gained some relevant insights about spanking, and how you can do it. So try it with your partner, but always open the door for conversation.