At first glance, a Dom and Sub relationship creates a picture of the movie “Fifty Shades of grey” in your mind. But this is just the tip of the iceberg, there’s so much to discover more than ropes, cuffs, and role-play on the bed. So, is there anything more to a dom? If yes then how to find a dominant partner?
A few years back, I accidentally crossed paths with my first dominant partner online. At that time, I was dealing with a divorce which left me ghosting around for years—empty, emotionless, and not looking up for a rebound. But one thing which was still alive was my lusty cupids hungry for backstrokes. Dial-back to today, I have 2 D/S (Dominant and Submissive) relationships.
And honestly, I have learned some profound things about myself, sex, my body, and even life. If you’re not familiar with the D/S trend, don’t worry I have got you covered here. This article will change your sex life, this blog post will help you navigate to your sexual powerhouse- a dominant partner, that will heighten your orgasm to higher realms and will unlock your secret sexual fantasies. So, want to know how to find a dom but in a nice way? Let’s get started.
What is Dominant And Submissive Role Play In Sex?
Many people love to introduce and practice power dynamics while heating things in the bedroom. And there’s nothing better you can do than play your side ( dominant or submissive) during sexual encounters. It’s a unique way of getting sexually aroused and experiencing the mind-blown sex of your life. The word “dom-sub” is a short term for Dominant and Submissive roles that each partner may choose for kinks and eroticized mixture of power dynamics that occur during an exchange of power.
Role Of A Dominant Partner
A dom in its sex verse is a person who drives sexual pleasures during BDSM (sexual encounters). Dom partners are responsible to respect the boundaries of his/her partner to maintain healthy play during the session. It’s not just about taking things sexually from the partner. During the play, Ds must maintain a perfect balance of giving and taking. Getting intense sexually, such as using sex toys on the partner and then giving aftercare is important.
What Doms Should Avoid?
To perform a healthy and erotic Ds play, your partner must be ready to set on the activities. Forcing your S- partner to do sexual acts even if she’s not comfortable to do is horrible. It’s important to have a clear discussion before role play or even a debate before you experiment with your sexual fantasies with a submissive.
How To Find A Dom Partner For Great Sex?
Before you start scanning key traits for a Good dom partner, learn to spot the red flags first or you will land on a fake Dom. Yes, it’s essential because there are lots of fake ones out there and you need to steer clear of your way from fake ones. The bad doms are cruel, non-emotional, and don’t respect the boundaries of their partners.
Now that you’re all set to know how to find a dom partner, here are some traits to look for:
Don’t Expose Your Kink right Away, But Reveal It Up Early
What do you understand about this? This means that you need not wave a submissive quoted flag all over while dating online. You will end up magnet creep masses that want to dominate you and experiment their sexual fantasies on you whether you like it or not.
You need to blur out your side at the initial stages when you’re meeting someone for the first time. You need to play clever and strategic while revealing your submissive side.
You need to collect hints from their profile- if you see a kink in the profile, you can open your card later. Or if you met a person who is shy or avoids sexual discussions, you need to take a back seat for a while.
Show Hints That you’re Submissive
I am naturally dominative when it comes to sex, and attracted to dominative personalities. I can normally confirm from the writing style, words, and pictures if someone is a submissive personality or not. S personalities mostly use words open-minded, sex-positive, and kinky- if I am not wrong.
You can also use such words to attract your tribe.
Get Active on Every Kinky Apps
Get active on kinky websites and apps. I had a good time on OkCupid and Feeld, lots of fish there, but cautious for alligators (fake doms). Create a profile, use words that describe your traits (dominant or submissive), and why you’re here. Ask some kinky questions when you meet someone online, and see what they think.
Also Read: What is subdrop in BDSM
There you have it! Play these simple steps to get under the radar of Ds partners. Finding a perfect dominant partner can be a hard nut to crack, but it’s not impossible. Get socialize, play friendly, and show your boundaries. And don’t feel sad if it didn’t work out for you. Keep communicating, and keep your doors open for others, you will surely end up crossing paths with your charming prince.