Sex is a creative process, and having different sex fetishes is all about that you take orgasm seriously. Still, sexual fetishes aka having kinks are inextricably tagged as a cultural taboo, such weird and abnormal sexual practices that don’t fit in the bible of traditional sex society. People often consider sex as a sacred way to come together as a couple and celebrate God’s gift to each other. Some say it’s a sacred way of exchange of power, vibes, emotion, and exploration. Beyond above everything, BDSM sexual, oral, or anal are considered dirtiness with sex, and people avoid talking about it.
But the reality is poles apart, researchers have found that 1 in 3 people have some form of kink or “unusual” sexual interest. That’s a lot of people! But even though kink is relatively common, there’s still a lot of stigma and misunderstanding surrounding it. Having some unique sexual kink is often conflated with a mental disorder, but not it’s time to normalize it.
If you’re also keeping your sexual fantasies behind the closet with your partner then this blog post is for you. Indeed, BDSM kink is the new sex culture going on in the sex verse but it’s still a topic of mystery for many people. Eventually, a lack of knowledge will shoot myths and misconceptions about kink which makes it TABOO and unhealthy. So let’s start from scratch-
First Things First, What Exactly Is Kink?
Having kink or sex fetish is not one form of sex, kink is a spectrum of sex activities that people signup to do together. Kink is often called BDSM which is a sex staple of today’s evolving sex culture. Kink can include everything from role-playing and light bondage to more extreme activities like electrostimulation. People who identify as kinky often have specific interests or fetishes (like foot fetishism or spanking) that they like to explore in their sex lives.
From solo play to couples in bed, kink is a hobby that can be enjoyed by everyone. People often prefer to enjoy their sex fetishes solo behind the walls because of the social stigma attached to them. But there are different kink communities where kinks are considered a normal and healthy sexual act.
People who are in monogamous relationships can talk about their kink interests with their partners and figure out how to incorporate them into their sex lives in a way that works for both parties. And people who are married or in long-term relationships can use kink as a way to spice up their sex lives and keep things interesting.
When Is A Kink Considered A Mental Disorder?
So when does a kink cross the line into a mental disorder? Some sexual fetishes or behavior are inherently taken from the family, for example- pedophilia is a sexual disorder where a person is attracted to young boys, girls, or both and remains a disorder diagnosis. Having sex preferences is not a crime, your action is what always counts.
In the broadest sense, if your sex fetish is enjoyable and not harming others cannot be considered a mental disorder. Still, people see different sex fetishes or kinks, such as foot fetish, bondage, or BDSM sexual garter belts because society is more about vaginal-penis sex. If your sexual kinks are causing distress in your romantic relationship then it’s time to consult a professional, and if it’s not the case then you can always practice whatever sex behavior you want- But Keep CONSENT on top priority.
Kink Improved My Mental Health
So here’s the story of a 38-year-old woman, Alice, who knows how kink improved her mental health. Trust, me you will know that Kink is a Hobby and not a disorder by the end.
Two years back, I suddenly went profoundly deaf. I lost my job and my boyfriend dumped me. During my downtime, I started experiencing suicidal thoughts and wanted to die. Felt this was the easy and only option I was left with. My mother also killed herself, so I was having the exact feeling. I came so close.
But still, there was a silver lining that was keeping me from doing the act, I was trying new ways to distract myself from this emotional turbulence and physical agony. One day I joined a dating app. Then right there I crossed paths with a man who was very into BDSM. And from there my mental health started getting back on track.
I credit BDSM sexual hobby for bringing my life back to normal. BDSM stands for Bondage Discipline Dominance Submission Sadism Masochism. It involves different sexual scenarios that you can practice as hobby sex with your partner. So on a question about is BDSM a kink that should be avoided? No, I don’t think so. It stopped me from dying.
Is BDSM A Kink Disorder?
As we just read that practicing BDSM helped Alice to fight her suicidal thoughts and she came out of depression. BDSM is a vast ocean and it’s incredibly diverse. From Blindfold sex to practicing bondage sex as a hobby, the definition of kink in BDSM changes with time and you will always find something new on the horizon that you can practice with your partner.
But why BDSM has so many sex categories? Okay, the truth is BDSM sexual practices are not always about sex. It’s a game of sensation where sex is optional. And the reason why BDSM has so much to offer and experiment because there are hundreds or thousands of people having very unique and interesting sex fetishes in the community. Having sexual kinks or sex fetishes is healthy until or unless it’s not harming your romantic relationship or the person around you physically, emotionally, or mentally.
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Kink is a hobby which is normal and is not dangerous when done correctly. If you’re interested in exploring your kinky side, talk to your partner about it and do some research to figure out what activities are safe and consensual for both of you.
Remember, communication is key! Have fun and stay safe. We hope you have a good read and gained some relevant insights about kink from today’s blog post. Stay tuned for more amazing blogs! Have a great day everyone!