If you are new to the BDSM lifestyle you will come across a lot of new terms like submissive and dominant, roleplay, fear play, edge play, etc. You might even have questions like “What is Knife Play or Blind Play?”. If the term “ Knife Play” happens to interest you then read on as we will be giving you a detailed overview of its what(s), how(s), and when(s).
So what is knife play? Knife Play is a type of roleplay in typical BDSM(Bondage, discipline, dominance, submission, and sadism). This involves acts that make up the practice of BDSM but are accompanied specifically by knives, swords, or daggers. BDSM is an umbrella term for a spectrum of sexual acts and behaviors that revolve around the same tendency of dominance and submission.
Roleplaying falls under this spectrum and can vary based on tastes and wants. Edgeplay is a subcategory of roleplay under which Knife Play exists. The main motive behind this entire practice is to provide physical and mental stimulation to both parties involved in the act. In simple words, it is the thrill of the rush that acts as the stimulant for the entire process.
How is Knife Play Different from Other Kinks?
Every fetish is different in nature as its roots in every individual are unique and depend on their respective psyche. Naturally, knife play kink is also vastly different from any other kink, even though almost all of them revolve around the same idea of dominance and submission as BDSM. Dominance and submission take various different forms when it comes to BDSM.
For example, blind play is a mainstream kink currently which also acts as the doorway to the BDSM lifestyle and is a part of the sensory deprivation play subcategory. This includes tying a blindfold on your partner as it is believed to boost sensitivity in the rest of the sense organs. Similarly, yet not so obviously, knife BDSM play can originate from a knife kink that focuses on heightening your senses but not by limiting a sense organ; instead, it focuses on pleasure stimulated through the risk of having your life on the line, the pleasure of controlling someone’s life, and the sense of power in your partner’s case.
Psychology Behind Knife Play
Kinks and fetishes are the results of a person’s individual traumas or a combination of different traumas often born as a way to rationalize or cope with one or multiple painful experiences that an individual might have experienced in their life. For instance, victims of sexual assault can often develop CNC(Consensual Non-Consent) kink as a coping mechanism. People who enjoy sexual knife play have a high chance of having experienced some trauma revolving around the concept which could even potentially be related to self-harm.
Knife Play is a fear-based kink from which sexual arousal is stimulated for both parties involved. For the person, it is performed on or the sub. It is the risk factor of having your life controlled by someone that stimulates pleasure in every form. On the other hand, the person who performs the act or the dom derives pleasure from the submission of control from the other party.
However, unlike most other kinks, knife play can be a bit extreme for some people because the submission in context isn’t the submission of comparatively minimal aspects like one of the senses; rather, it is the submission of life and control over one’s entire existence itself, from which both the involved parties derive physical, mental, and sexual pleasure.
Knife Play takes the sense of control and power that are associated with more traditional dom/sub dynamics and elevates it, during knife play rather than just having power over a person’s pleasure, you potentially hold their life in your hands, and from the sub’s perspective, the sense of threat, danger, and helplessness is enthralling because it produces endorphins that can actually become quite addictive.
Submitting all control of your being to someone you trust can bring you a state of pleasure and relaxation that nothing else can. This is psychologically beneficial to many people which then takes the form of sexual pleasure. The knife in context can be used by the performer in various ways and in various places triggering a different sensation every single time. Even though it comes with fear knife play can bring enough pleasure for the bearer and the performer to push many boundaries.
Do(s) and Don’t(s) of Knife Play
Knife Play is an extreme practice of BDSM, and roleplay has its own set of knife play safety guidelines and tips. If you want to get started on this specific form of dominance and submission, it is very important to understand its inner workings, both for you and your partner, to achieve the height of pleasure while also being safe and sound at its climax.
Generally, a knife, blade, or dagger is used by the dominant on their submissive to provide both with sexual arousal through cutting the submissive’s clothing or gently running it around their intimate or other body parts. You can also take it a step ahead by asking your partner to opt for a sharper blade and making small scratches along your skin although it’s not necessary to draw blood depending on how far you want to take things.
However, these acts can quickly and dramatically run out of hand if one wrong move is made and can even turn deadly meanwhile if you can figure out the thin line between fatal and safe you can experience a peak of sexual pleasure that very few people successfully achieve. The following steps will educate you on how to reach that thin line and keep it separated.
Things You Should Do
Consent is the biggest factor that exists not only in regard to knife play but for anything that involves even the slighted sexual intent. Always discuss all the aspects of the act you want to practice with your partner and ask for consent. It is always important to ensure your partner’s safety, especially during something as serious as Knife Play.
- Cutting of clothes
Cutting or removal of clothes is one of the key factors that make up Knife Play. You can cut off pieces of clothing one at a time and set a pace with your partner. You can also try cutting off intimate clothing like lingerie with your partner’s consent and use replaceable clothing if needed.
- Dual Use
Once you are confident with your skills in handling a knife in this scenario you can try taking it a step further by equipping yourself with two knives, one in each hand.
Knife Play is essentially a fear-based kink and can range from subtle to extreme forms. If you are engaging in an extreme form of sexual knife play, you can try whispering in your partner’s ear with dirty talk but with a threatening undertone, which will help amplify the fear factor of the whole act, further improving the whole experience for both parties.
- Combine with other fetishes or kinks
Knife play by itself can be a very intense and pleasurable experience for you; however, combining it with other fetishes like blind play or wax play can increase the experience tenfold for you and your partner in a positive way. This also reduces the safety scale so be more careful and sound while combining sexual knife play with other kinks or fetishes.
- Visual Stimulation
You can increase your partner’s pleasure by adding visual stimulation to the mix. To do so you can keep the transparency while using the knife to run it along your partner’s skin or during cutting off clothing. You can also make visibility the key factor while making small scratches on your partner’s skin.
- Prepare a Safety Kit
Safety for you and your partner is one of the key factors during sex and especially when exploring new fetishes that fall under the umbrella of BDSM, as the bondage lifestyle can become fatal if the right precautions aren’t taken. Keep a fully equipped first aid kit handy with bandages, ointments, disinfectants, etc.
- Safe Word
A safe word is a word that both parties involved in the act mutually agree upon to use at any point of discomfort that may arise during the act. Make sure the word is easy to remember and use for both you and your partner.
Things You Shouldn’t Do
- Dismiss Psychological Triggers
As Knife Play sits on the foundation of fear play its boundaries are vague and translucent. Similarly to any other kinks knife play can also be rooted in a psychological trauma that your partner may have experienced. As the boundaries are so delicate, it is quite common to accidentally and psychologically trigger your partner’s traumas. In such a scenario, do not dismiss it and retreat.
- Poor Hygiene
Hygiene is something you should maintain regardless of your lifestyle although it doesn’t hurt to be extra clean while carrying out something intimate and intense like knife play. Make sure your knives are clean and sterile before use.
- Knife movements
Watch tutorials and educate yourself on proper knife-using techniques before using them on your partner’s body. Never use the knife at a 90-degree angle or push it towards the skin, make sure to always pull the knife towards yourself. If you are new to this try using blunt knives or credit cards instead.
Basics of Knife Play
Despite being classified as fear play as it involves sharp knives and blades, the objective of safe knife play isn’t always to draw blood or cut the skin. Although its sharp knives against soft skin so naturally blood may be drawn at times while making light cuts but should not be the motive as that would be considered as blood play instead. Here’s where the lines get blurry because some people do enjoy drawing blood but that is only to increase the risk factor. Some people also like the physical sensation of having the cold metal of the knife on their skin and derive pleasure from it by running it through the body’s intimate and erogenous zones as it is highly pleasurable and sensual, this is a form of temperature play combined with knife play.
You can use knives during erotic anal sex to do various things to combine it with other forms of pleasure and fetishes like using them to scrap wax off your partner’s body during wax play, heat the metal up or cool it down then use it on your partner’s skin for temperature play, use it cut ropes during rope play or shibari and even use it during blind play. It is important to understand that you and your dom or sub should only take part in these practices if you and your partner trust each other with your lives.
Knife play is a form of fear play but also a form of edge play making the sub go through an adrenaline rush and invoking fear which ultimately leads to unexplainable pleasure. As good as it sounds this activity can be very risky which is ironically also something that the whole concept is based upon. Knife play can lead to blood play but by itself, it does not involve drawing blood.
Knife play isn’t everyone’s cup of tea. If you and your partner are new to the BDSM lifestyle it is suggested to try out less extreme forms of bondage like wax play, blind play, shibari, temperature play, and other forms of edge play as these follow the same rule of dominance and submission as traditional bondage. Fear play is always a gamble so make sure your partner trusts you and you trust your partner completely with each other’s lives. Once you are comfortable with each other you can slowly introduce safe knife play into your sessions first with safer alternatives and then eventually with actual knives. Take proper precautions and maintain knife play safety guidelines. Note that once you step into bondage and BDSM collar that too into knife play kink it can make or break a relationship as fetishes and kinks often root from psychological traumas, be considerate of your partner, and don’t forget to use a safe word.
Frequently Asked Questions (FAQs)
Q1. Is Knife Play safe?
Ans. Knife Play can be very unsafe and risky if you are new to it or do not have any prior experience with it. It needs to be carried out with the utmost knowledge and attention. If you take enough precautions and guidance it can be safe as it is always a good idea to be better safe than sorry.
Q2. How do I ask my partner to consider Knife Play?
Ans. Communication is key, and a lot of research along with it. Talk with your partner and show them guides and tutorials about how it is performed and its inner workings. Educate them about the risks and benefits, precautions, and knife play safety measures. Make them feel comfortable about the concept and most importantly help your partner build trust.
Q3. Should I try Knife Play?
Ans. Knife play can be a bit extreme for some people as it can often lead to much more extreme forms of bondage like blood play but if you are looking to explore you can start it off by using safer alternatives like blunt knives or credit cards which can help you achieve the same level of pleasure but in a safe way.
Q4. Is Knife Play and Bladeplay the same thing?
Ans. Knife play and blade play are the same things, in essence, blade play can be referred to as knife play when different types of blades are being used rather than a typical knife. Some people prefer to opt for daggers or razor blades instead of knives in which case it can be called blade play.